TRUST. The dictionary provides this definition: Belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something. Relations have to be built on trust”
Recently I sat down with a former pastor who is now the Director of Missions for one of the counties in southern, middle TN. He has tried, without much success, to bring pastors together in small group settings to share their lives. I talked to him about the fact that in a group setting, there has to be trust and confidentiality. In other words, it has to be a safe place to share your life. As we continued to talk, he then asked me “so how do you build trust?” The simple answer is – it happens over time. I meet with a group of pastors once a month to walk the life journey together. In a recent conversation, I asked them “how did we build a safe and trustworthy group?” Their response was simple: “it takes time…” The men who meet in this group are from different denominations so there is not a sense of competition and their personalities just seem to work well together. It is a delight to meet with these men each month and not just talk about “church” but to talk about their marriages, families, hopes, and dreams for the future. Sometimes we talk about a particular verse or passage of Scripture and once in a while they just tell stories and laugh a lot. I used to think that this just might be a waste of time, but then I realized that this was an outlet of the stress and pressure that they sometimes deal with as a pastor.
In all the work we do with pastors, our goal is to provide a safe and confidential place for them to say anything they need to say. Do you have a place or a friend like that in your life? Do you have someone that you can TRUST with your deepest story? Whenever I think of trust I remember what the writer of Proverbs says about trusting God:
Trust the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek His will in all you do and He will show you which path to take. (Proverbs 3:55 – 7 NLT)
As you know, Linda has been walking the journey with Parkinson’s disease for more than 12 years. Recently, due to enhanced side effects, Linda’s doctor took her off a drug that she has been taking for many years. So far, we are pleased with her reactions to this medication change.